How are you trying? If you truly want something, it’ll happen because you’ll take action. If you’re not sure or you don’t truly want it, you’ll “try” but if things don’t work out, you’ll fall back to the status quo and be okay with it.
The question is: How bad do you actually want it?
If you’re not sure, I’m not convinced you really want it that bad.
You’re not sure because you never really considered it. You thought it was what you wanted to do because it’s what others are doing or you thought it would be nice, but you never contemplated the reality of your personal situation. You never sold yourself on the idea.
Outside events have nothing to do with what you want, or they shouldn’t at least. There’s not attainable goal because the whole idea is based on some notion you’ve created in your head, not fact. You need to make your life endogenous, about YOU and what you need to do, not what’s happening around you. Reality is perception, which means everything you think is real is only a semi-factual spin on what is actually happening.
Our society is definitely self-centered, but it is also a self-perfect society. “I am perfect so everything is everyone else’s fault.” This “new” way of thinking is rare to find in practice and even rarer to hear out loud. It’s not anyone else’s fault or responsibility, it’s YOURS. Take action and do something about it. Don’t wait for some elected leader to fix it or for your boss to give you a raise…do something to change it. Facts don’t change; it’s that perception, your “spin” on the facts that needs to.
It starts with figuring out what you actually want.
You have goals somewhere in your mind. Find them and examine them. Why do you REALLY want that particular thing?
Others can’t be any more help than you are to yourself. All I do is ask questions. You need to do all the work.
